Grief is sorrow that is felt whenever there’s a loss. This can be the loss of a relationship, the loss of an ideal or the loss of a loved one. Grief can be short term, chronic or crop up again years after you’ve experienced the loss.
People grieve in different ways but when grief isn’t dealt with, it can impact your physical health. You’ll notice more aches and illnesses than normal. Grief can cause you to feel anxiety, anger, fear, and depression.
It can cause you to withdraw from your family, friends and avoid any other type of social contact. Grief can affect your belief system and cause you to question things you used to believe.
There are various treatments for grief, but one of the most natural and effective at helping to deal with both short and long term grief is mindfulness. What mindfulness does is to allow you to keep your mind on the present, on what you know to be true.
When you practice mindfulness, you’ll immerse yourself in a lifestyle that will help you understand the fleetingness of grief. Like all emotions and experiences, grief will not last forever.
Mindfulness will help you to focus what you think about and how you feel about those things as they pertain to the here and now. You’ll be able to come to terms with whatever it is that you’re grieving about.
When you make mindfulness a habit, it can help you to not let grief be the center of your emotions. Any kind of loss will result in grief and that’s natural. It’s also healthy because you need to go through the stages of grief.
Those stages are mentally or emotionally denying the loss, feeling angry about the loss, bargaining – which is an inner argument based on if only or what if scenarios of what you would do if only the loss could be reversed, depression and finally, accepting the loss.
Mindfulness can teach you how to walk through the grief of your loss by showing you that the grief is not a constant. Every day the grief will change in intensity. Some days the grief will feel devastating and you might wonder how you can possibly continue on.
Other days, the sting of the grief won’t feel as sharp. You’ll begin to see the positives again. You’ll reach acceptance. Through mindfulness, you’ll learn exercises that can help you get through the grief.
You’ll learn how to sit quietly and focus on the breaths that you’re taking. As you’re focusing, you’ll begin to think about the grief and how you feel. Don’t shy away from the thought.
Instead, acknowledge it. Once you acknowledge the thought, release it and bring your thoughts back to the present.